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“It’s through failure that we learn the greatest lessons that life could teach us.”

Taking risks and falling down flat on our faces is what makes us who we are.

Like everybody else, I have failed many a time in life. I have faced the kind of failures that have completely changed the landscape of my life. Often my failures have led me into an abysmal pit of depression.

Usually, when we think about failure, we think of things in a negative light. Because of the perspective that the society has of failure, we are all religiously taught in school, by the elders in our families, or at work to feel guilty about our failures. We are judged by our mistakes and that is exactly why our entire lives are spent in our comfort zones, taking no risks, only so that we can prevent mistakes.

Nobody enjoys failure. Yet, today I will say this - failure is an absolute necessity because our failures serve as guideposts in our growth and learning.

It’s amazing how much we can glean from our mistakes. Every mistake you commit is actually a blessing in disguise because mistakes teach you to know clearly what you really want from your life. Rather than putting yourself down because of a shortcoming, you should take a reality check from your mistakes, and get a better understanding of what works and what doesn’t. Mistakes act as a signal that alerts you when your commitments and your actions are out of alignment. They take you straight to the heart of your fears and inhibitions and make you face them.

Your mistakes also help you to accept your flawed self. They teach you to take responsibility and own up to your shortcomings instead of blaming things on others. It is quite normal to try to evade or cover up your mistake. But by owning up to your limitations, you can cultivate honesty and grow to be a way better person. Once you learn to embrace your flaws, you increase your capacity to change for the better.

Always remember that you are more than your mistakes. Your failures stand as evidence that you are growing and risking on your way to the moon and the stars.

So learn to go easy on yourself. So stop obsessing about the past and instead learn to laugh at your own mistakes. Shut out people equate and judge you by the failures in your life. The sooner you realize the importance of failure, the easier it becomes for you to use your failures as stepping stones to reach your desired destination. Nothing can replace the knowledge gained from failure. So keep the lesson and use it as leverage in your life.

Understand that it’s okay to fail. But it’s not okay to give up. 

So next time you feel weighed down by your mistakes, think about all the knowledge and insights that come along with it and open your heart to experience the joy of failure. On a more philanthropic note, remember that your mistakes can inspire those around you.

How did you overcome your failures? Meet me for a candid rendezvous and inspire others you’re your story.

deathbedregretWise words between a father and a son...

I was told a story some time ago in relation to the son of a man who was on his deathbed, who asked his father a question; “Father if there’s anything you would change in life if you had your time over again, what would it be?”

After giving the question some thought the father’s reply was, “If I could go back in time, I would change all of the worrying thoughts I’ve had that has finally put me in the position I’m in now. The majority of those thoughts never happened!”

A few years ago research at the University of Cincinnati, as I’ve been informed, had apparently found that 85% of what people worry about never happens. The study also found that 79% of people handle 15% that does happen in ways that surprise us with our ability to turn the situation around.

There are many motivational speakers around the world who must have spoken about the fact that excessive worry causes serious health issues.The stress reactions worry excites actually floods the brain with stress hormones. The results of the stress these hormones can have on people can help in the process of making people prone to disease and emotional problems. The elderly who worry too much are twice as likely to develop dementia and clinical depression.

It’s true isn’t it, you can spend too much time thinking about things that you have no real control over, and most of those thoughts have nothing to do with now. Being a professional Life Coach let me tell you, that you are no different from any other person in the way you think, most people think in a similar way. When you get to know who you really are, your thinking will never be the same again. You are in for a really amazing experience, once you apply all the things you are being taught to stay focused on, throughout this book.

You’ve heard this expression previously: “If only I knew then what I know now!” I’ve learned that when the time is right you will recognize what you need to learn. I’m going to repeat again what I said earlier; “When the student is ready the teacher will appear!”

You were born ready, all you have to do is prepare yourself, and never give in. Don’t live a life with regrets of failures, have an Edison mentality. Thomas Edison’s teachers said he was too stupid to learn anything. He was fired from his first two jobs for being described as being “non-productive.” As an inventor, he made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When he was asked by reporters how he felt to fail 1,000 times, Edison replied “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”

Your life is the same, take one step at a time. The results you achieve are the steps you take in the way you think. Each small thought gets stored in the subconscious part of your brain, and is played out through the conscious part during your daily activities.

There’s another old saying; “You are what you think!” So who are you at this moment in time?

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younotaloneblogHave you had enough, tired of feeling unappreciated, going through the same old motions?

Have you had enough, tired of feeling unappreciated, going through the same old routine, doing what you don’t want to be doing? It’s sad when you realize you aren’t as important and appreciated as you thought you were, isn’t it? I read a quote where it was said: “There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn’t even jump in puddles for you.” Are you going through the same old daily routine, whatever that may be, and not wanting to be doing it any longer. You just know deep down within you, that there is more to life than this unfulfilled feeling you feel deep within each day as you wake up.

Or you may feel you can’t go on any longer wasting your life away, feeling lost and alone. Your family may have grown up and moved away, or you just feel you’ve come to the end of the road you’ve been traveling on for far too long. It may be your job, relationship, the location you live in, just knowing deep down within you that you are not fulfilling your true potential in life. No matter what your age is, I believe that life is a journey and not a destination. If you have decided you are feeling lost, unfulfilled and desperate, frustrated or alone, and the list could go on, as a Keynote Speaker, I can tell you that you are now in the right place in life for the help you are seeking.

You are not alone anymore. You can decide that enough is enough, no more that’s it, no turning back! If this is what you have decided, there can definitely be no turning back from now on, and not accepting life as it has been any longer. If that is the case Congratulations! You are not alone we are here with our Life Coaching Book and Life Coaching Programmes to help you to continue on your pathway to success.


oneinsevenbillionYou are AMAZING! If you feel unworthy, unloved, lost, abused, defeated, lonely, ashamed, you are wrong, you are very special indeed!

You are AMAZING! Always remember that. If you feel unworthy, unloved, lost, abused, defeated, lonely, ashamed, bewildered, unfulfilled, the list could go on and on. Your own personal fingerprints and DNA tells you that you are very special.

Think about that!

There are over7 billion people on the earth, and no other person has the same Fingerprints and DNA as you. That makes you UNIQUE!

Your DNA links you to being a member of the human family, so that makes us all relatives either directly or indirectly.

Are you perfect in all that you do in life?


Do you make mistakes?


That’s what makes you human.

If you never make or have never made a mistake or wrong decision, you have never learned what not to do or do, to get things right.

Again think about that.

“It’s not all about making the right decisions; it’s all about making the decisions right!”

 Babies only learn to walk by falling down and getting back up again. You then had to learn to take one step at a time and keep falling down until you eventually learned to walk. You can’t remember how many times you had to fall down and get back up, but that’s what you did. And the same also applies to speaking and mastering your other basic senses in life.

You have experienced some form of pain and discomfort by acquiring the skills in walking, and this only came about by the action you were shown to take and then applying the action.

You have gained knowledge by using your senses of sight, smell, feeling, hearing and taste. The only way you learned, was by taking action on what knowledge you had gained. Taking ACTION is the only way to success.

So if you are beating yourself up for whatever reason due to making some kind of human error, do yourself a favour and stop doing that. You are not helping yourself by doing so. Remember, when you fell down before you learned to walk, you didn’t spend all of your time moaning and groaning, you just instinctively got up and began to try to walk again.

Yes at times tears of pain and frustration came, and at times you were helped up, we all need help and guidance sometimes, but eventually, you had to stand on your own two feet and keep striving to walk.

Guess what?

You eventually succeeded and you now walk without thinking about it. You had to go through some form of pain or discomfort to achieve your success, but success was inevitable as long as you didn’t give up.

Remember the old saying, No pain No gain!

If you think you are never going to make painful mistakes in life, or you won’t be mistreated, or experience other forms of discomfort in life, trust me at some stage in your existence you no doubt shall experience these in one form or another.

It’s the beginning of getting to know who you are, it’s part of your life experience to take one small step at a time, to actually fulfil your true potential, by going through life experiences. Good or bad experiences, and learning from them.

                       “There are no endings in life, just new beginnings!”

As I stated earlier, the small space on the tip of your finger has your own personal individual fingerprint on it, and no other person has the same match, as well as your DNA. To me that’s amazing, and you are amazing and of worth.

Why are You Amazing, Unique, and Special?

Have you ever been asked the above question before?

Probably not!

I believe that you and I are here on earth to be happy and to fulfil our own true individual potential by doing something specific that we are born to do.

What is it you are born to do?

Do you know what that something is?

I do know that you hold the key within you. Yes deep inside of you, to unlock the real you that is longing to break FREE.

There are millions of people who don’t know who they really are worldwide, and not knowing what they are here to do in life. They go through life having been moulded into the system they are living in, and then at some stage in their life, start searching for that something, but never finding the contentment, and fulfilment in life that is waiting to be had by everyone. I call it our own personal individual inheritance for coming to this earth that you deserve.

I was one of those people until I lost my job and decided that I had had enough of just existing, and in doing a job, and living a life that I felt wasn’t what I was here to be doing. I felt undervalued and used and abused at times, which was destroying me from within. I had had enough, had come to the end, and decided through a strong feeling deep down inside of me, to get up early each morning and keep walking through my daily routine, until I found the answers to the questions I would be asking myself each day. What is it I’m here on earth to be doing? Why do I feel so unfulfilled? Where do I get the answers from? I wanted to be able to set myself Free from the bewildered, frustrating, turmoil I was feeling deep inside of me, and for far too many years of my life journey!

This is the reason my book “The You within You Hold the Key!” was written. It gives the answers and teaches the daily step by step journey I walked each day, and the people I met along the way, to get to know the real me, and what I’m here on earth to be doing. I’m passionate in wanting to help you to find the real you, so you too like me, will no longer have that feeling deep within you, that unfulfilled feeling that seems to cry out to you deep inside, and finally to be able to set yourself Free. YOUR TIME IS NOW!


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